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Anyone who has been paying attention has seen the ugliness and outright hatred that has been displayed towards Lesbian and Gays wanting equal rights. From hate crimes that have led to the beatings and deaths of Lesbian, Gay, and Transgendered people, to the creation of laws that TAKE AWAY the RIGHTS of Lesbian, Gay and Transgendered people, to blaming us for natural disasters, the hate has been overt and nasty. And the use of the bible as an excuse and the reason behind the actions of some people is disgusting. What is most disturbing is the statement from these people that “following the teachings of the church is not bigotry” is laughable. Because the “teachings” they are following is being twisted to teach hate.
 
Nom, the National Organization for Marriage, led by Brian Brown and Maggie Gallagher, and FRC, the Family Research Council, led by Tony Perkins, have been at the forefront of the “stop the Lesbians and Gays” movement. And the sad part about this is that they are using the same rhetoric that was used in the 1950′s against African Americans. Nom and FRC have spent MILLIONS of dollars to fund Prop 8 in California and Prop 1 in Maine., They have gone to great lengths to hide their finances from government agencies looking into their deeds. All under the guise of “christianity.” Some of their deeds have been comical, some have been shameful, but many have been scary.
 
Nom has had two “bus tours” driving around the country to spread their hate. But to their chagrin, their spectacles have been complete and utter flops. Their “stops” have had more people protesting against what they are saying than has been there to support them. Oh but there is a reason for that. Ready? It’s because the protesters, i.e. Lesbians and Gays … DON’T HAVE JOBS! Yes, that was actually a comment that was made by Brian Brown when one of his stops had less than 20 supporters and hundreds of protesters. As if being unemployed, in this economy, is funny.
 
Both NOM and the FRC are under investigation by the states of California and Maine, among others, for failing to provide financial records of their campaign contributions. Not only have they failed to provide those records, they have gone out of their way to ignore legal orders to do so. They have lost every appeal but refuse to follow the law and file the required campaign papers with these states. Sounds awful “christian” to me. What about you?
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The Lesbian and Gay struggle for the same rights as straight people has taken many turns. From straight allies going on record saying they support the right of people being able to marry who they wish, to bigots using their position to “keep them in their place”, to people hiding behind religion to justify bigotry. Add this story to the “bigots keeping them in their place!”
 
Melissa McKenzie, and 18 year old Lesbian was recently kicked out of school because she lives with her 17 year old girlfriend. What does McKenzie living with her girlfriend have to do with her going to school? The principal of Del City high school told Melissa “if you move back home with your parents, you can come back to school.” And how does living at home change that? HUH???
 
Kelsey Hicks needs to graduate from high school so she can follow her dream of being a firefighter. Both girls, high school softball players, were also kicked off of their team for complaining about their situation. Hicks, McKenzie’s girlfriend, who also wanted to come back to school, thinks the school’s attitude is this:, “you probably won’t do anything with your life so you might as well drop out now.” The “powers that be” must not know of all of the Lesbians and gays who have “done something with their lives.” What about the Lesbian and Gay doctors, lawyers, service men and women, police officers, and teachers, “who do something with their lives every day.” Does Ellen DeGeneres ring a bell?
 
People in power are no different than anyone else. They have their own biases and bigotries. But they are NOT supposed to use their position to dictate how other people live their lives. The principal’s job is NOT do decide who will “do something with their lives.” His job is to make sure EVERY CHILD has the opportunity to get an education and graduate.
 
Either or both of the Lamda Defense League and the ACLU needs to get involved in this situation. Because there are two things that are against nature. Playing games with children and old people. And the adults at Del City high school and the school district are indeed “messing with babies!”
 
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In a earlier blog post, I commented on high school football officials who were fined, suspended a couple of games, and might possible miss the state tournament, because they used pink whistles to honor and support Breast Cancer Awareness week. I stated that this was a ridiculous situation and that the Washington State official’s chair, Todd Stordahl, was an idiot for the stance he was taking. Well the Idiots Club just got bigger!
 
A high school kicker in Mendenhall High school, in the state of Mississippi, was kicked off the team for wearing pink cleats! He wore them during a game, then again at the next practice, and was told to take them off. When he refused, he was kicked off the team! Lord save me!
 
The cleats were a gift from his 82 year old grandmother who is a breast cancer survivor. Coy Sheppard was honoring both Breast Cancer awareness and his grandmother. But for some reason the coaches had a problem with the pink cleats. In the past, Coy has worn colored cleats with absolutely no problem. But when the cleat color changed to pink, that was the final straw. Remove them or get kicked off the team. There was no reason given why Sheppard was asked to take off the cleats. WOW!!
 
If Sheppard had never worn colored cleats in the past, I wouldn’t have any problems with him being kicked off the team. But that isn’t the case. When the color changes to pink, it became an issue? The Simpson County School District, deputy superintendent, Tom Duncan, says “it’s not about breast cancer awareness. It’s about not following the coaches instructions.” Yeah right? Dare I say it? The real reason pink became an issue?
 
The Simpson County School District isn’t that far from the Itawamba School district. The same district in Mississippi that denied Constance McMillen the right to bring her girlfriend to the prom! And was just ordered to pay Ms. McMillen over $100,000.00 in compensation and lawyer’s fees. The color pink is one of the symbols of homosexuality. An isolated incident? I think not! Again, no reason was given for Coy being asked to take the pink cleats off. But I am waiting with bated breath to hear that reason! Did I mention that Coy is allowed to apply school credits for playing football, and because of the removal from the team, may not graduate on time? Much like the football officials who were suspended because they used pink whistles, the logic behind the reprimands are questionable. Sheppard has filed a lawsuit to get reinstated to the team and complete his high school education. Hopefully cooler heads will prevail and Coy will be able to get back on the team and finish high school with his classmates.
 
I’d hate to think homophobia is this and and irrational. That a kid honoring his grandmother and supporting Breast Cancer awareness, would be kicked off the team for wearing pink cleats! Until we get the “REAL REASON” for Coy being kicked off the team, that is my story and I’m sticking to it! And I’m Not Feeling It at all!!!!!

To be honest with ya, I’ve been fortunate to meet some great people in my life. From awesome teachers and professors to great fellow students and coworkers. From grade school all the way up to today. With the advent of Facebook, people who I have known for over 40 years have reconnected with me. Some of these people grew up in the same neighborhood that I did. Some of them I met in elementary school through high school, and some I worked with. But even though I don’t have that many “friends”, the ones I do have hold special memories for me. But I have one friend who is not here. I lost him in junior high school. His name was Chuck.
 
In my area of the planet, when you graduate from elementary school, you go to a junior high school that brings kids together from a fairly wide area of the city. So for me, I met new people at Lemon Grove Jr. High. One of those people was Chuck. He was a year older than I was, but we hit it off immediately!
 
I don’t know if Chuck was gay but he had effeminate characteristics. It didn’t matter to me, I just liked him. He was one of those people who always had a smile on his face and made you feel good. He was smart and funny and you liked to be around him. He had lots of friends and EVERYONE knew him. If you need a visual of what Chuck was like, picture Jack McFarland from Will and Grace, MINUS the narcissism! I remember dancing with him at the school dances and laughing with him in passing in the halls in between classes. He was one of those people who you thought would be successful if only on his personality alone.
 
Yeah, I remember people saying he was “gay” or calling him a “fag” on many occasions, but it seemed to roll of his back. I don’t know the extent of any physical bullying, but since it was the late 70′s, I wouldn’t doubt that it didn’t happen to Chuck. Again, because he was funny, he was always able to turn torment into laughter. He just had that knack!
 
The summer after the 7th grade, when we came back to school, the school was hit with the news. Chuck had committed suicide. Many people speculated that he got tired of being harassed, both in his neighborhood or at home and at school because of his “feminine ways.” Either way it was a huge blow to me. I didn’t know what a “Lesbian” was, but I knew I liked girls. And I knew I was “different”, just like Chuck. Chuck was the first of 8 suicides of people that I knew personally. Not ” a friend of a friend” but people I cared about. People who for whatever reason, we connected. On a spiritual level.
 
With the rash of teen suicides in the last month, at least nine if I count correctly, Chuck has come rushing back to me. That nine teenagers, who haven’t really had the chance to enjoy life, are no longer here. That they saw no other outlet for the bullying except to commit suicide. And that the torment Chuck went through is now global. And how you can be humiliated and have it seen by millions of people, in seconds. Little did I know, I would face something similar myself.
 
At San Diego City College, there was a rumor that I was a lesbian. No one ever said they saw me with another woman. No one ever said they saw me do anything with any women. What was said is that I “looked” at other women. YUP, that was my crime! Not like Jack Tripper used to look at Chrissy, Janet, and Terry, just looked at them. And I endured semesters of whispers, murmurs, and pointing. And should someone not have known about my “crime”, it was quickly brought to their attention. Luckily for me, most of the people who were “told about me” didn’t seem to care. They continued to talk to me and it didn’t matter. But yes, there were times when I didn’t want to go to class. And times where I was ready to toss people off of the second floor of the building we were on. But I was in my mid twenties and saw the bigger picture. And the fact that I was usually one of the people who always “fucked up the curve”, I was able to get my revenge that way! No one had the balls to come up to my face and say anything. But the murmurs and other crap were aggravating just the same.
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The African American community has”waved the bible in the air and waved it like we just don’t care” when it comes to Lesbians and Gays. And most of the Black churches have been on the front lines of this battle. Bishop Eddie Long runs the New Birth Missionary Baptist Church and a school called the New Birth Christian Academy. He routinely preaches against the “evils of homosexuality” and has even called for violence against us. But as we all know, those who yell the loudest usually have a front seat in the closet. And the newest member is Long. He is being sued by TWO MEN who claim he forced and coerced them into having sex with him. Can the congregation say “AMEN!”
 
The good “bishop” has been one of the most vocal “anti-gay” so called “men of god” going so far as to say that “God says you, Lesbians and Gays (emphasis mine) deserve death!” In 2004, he and his congregation strongly supported the amending of the Georgia state constitution banning Same Couple Marriage. Long has made no secret of his complete HATE of Lesbians and Gays. This self loathing GAY MAN has now been exposed for being the exact thing that he preaches against!
 
Long is being charged by two men, Anthony Flagg and Maurice Robinson of sexual abuse. In Flagg’s suit Long is being accused of “sexual acts and relationships for his own personal gratification.” In Robinson’s suit he claims that Eddie “selected certain young men and employees for sexual acts and relationships for his own personal gratification.” Robinson also claims that “jewelry, cars, clothes, and electronics” were used to entice these boys into doing what Long wanted them to do. These young men were well known in the church as the “Spiritual Sons” of Longs. These are the same young men who he was “mentoring on their masculine journey!” I guess we now have a new term for GAY MALE SEXUAL ACTS!
 
Reports say that Longs’ church is what is called a “mega church” and has over 30,000 members. So to say that he was “god like” would be an understatement. Robinson’s suit says that Eddie used “pastoral sessions” where he read bible passages that reinforced his control over the boys. As to why he thought this kind of activity would continue is beyond me.
 
At some point, no matter what the situation, the abused person will realize that what is being done to them is wrong. Some people will internalize what happened to them by using drugs and alcohol to self medicate. Others will begin to burn, cut, or mutilate themselves to ease the pain. Still others will externalize their anger and become violent to anyone or anything that comes across their paths. How many boys, now grown men, came across the path of an accused PREDATOR named Eddie L Long, who went on to abuse other people? Only time will tell. Because just like the catholic church, once the first few cases of abuse came to light and lawsuits were filed, there was soon an onslaught. I can’t wait to see how many other men come forward and take the first steps into healing their souls!
 
Eddie, I must say that I am LOVING what is happening to you know. Because your sermons have been MEAN SPIRITED and certainly not something that the god in the bibles condones. Your lack of “christian love” has been heard loud and clear. And as you said in one of your videos, “And if they don’t change, they’re going straight to hell. Homosexuality and lesbianism are spiritual abortions,” …. “Homosexuality is a manifestation of the fallen man.” I guess YOU must have fallen too Mr. Long. Right out of the closet!
 
 

With these four words, it is so ordered, millions of Lesbian and Gay citizens in America, and around the world, found last Wednesday’s ruling that overturned Prop 8 to be a GODSEND! Yes, I said it, a GODSEND! Because what we have been saying all along, that Prop 8 was UNCONSTITUTIONAL has been proven to be just that. And for the last nearly 96 hours I have been happy and smiling without knowing why. And when I do remember why, my smile gets wider and wider! The air seems clearer. The birds seem to be chirping more, and the sun seems brighter. But those in the struggle know the battle is still not over.
 
One of the things the Judge Walker stated was that there was no evidence that Same Couple Marriage harmed “traditional marriage.” The six states that currently allow Same Couple Marriage are Massachusetts, Connecticut, Iowa, Vermont, Maine, and New Hampshire. The world didn’t come to an end nor did the roof fall in. The opponents of Same Couple Marriage have done nothing to prove we cause them any harm. And they had the same opportunities to present evidence that it does and came up with NOTHING!
 
Iowa, the only state to perform Same Couple Marriages not on the east coast, has seen a jump in tourism. Why? Because Lesbians and Gays in the Mid-west can go to Iowa and get married. Since there is a three day waiting period to get married in Iowa, money is being spent in the local economy. For an country that is still in the midst of a recession, that extra money is a blessing. Do you hear that California?
 
In the now four days since the ban was repealed, the Republican party has been eerily silent on the ruling. And these are the people who have been on the front lines of opposing Same Couple Marriage. With mid-term elections coming up, they are afraid to make Same Couple Marriage an issue. Especially since the economy, health care, the federal deficit, the war, unemployment, and immigration, seem to be more important than Same Couple Marriage. Or maybe the Republican party is seeing the writing on the wall. The tide is changing and Same Couple Marriage isn’t and never should have been an issue.
 
It is so ordered. No finer words were EVER uttered!

I’m back folks! So be prepared because “it’s on and poppin’!” If you want to know what I have been up to, check out my Lesbian Comic called Lesbionix!
 
On August 4, 2010, Judge Vaughn Walker overturned Prop 8! His 138 page ruling shows that he spent considerable time and effort to look at both sides of the issue before making his ruling. As those of us on the RIGHT SIDE OF THIS ISSUE have always said, proponents of Prop 8 used “smoke and mirrors” to scare people and get those people with ONE BRAIN CELL to fall for lies and half truths. This was reiterated by the Prop 8 ruling!
 
The ruling effectively overturns Prop 8. Judge Walker stated that NOTHING the proponents of Prop 8 presented proved that Same Couple Marriage harmed “traditional marriage.” He also stated that “Because California has no interest in discriminating against gay men and lesbians, and because Proposition 8 prevents California from fulfilling its constitutional obligation to provide marriages on an equal basis, the court concludes that Proposition 8 is unconstitutional.” Really! Too bad 52% of Californians didn’t realize that!!!!!!!!
 
The funniest thing about the ruling is that Judge Walker went to great lengths to refute the witnesses for Prop 8. One of the witnesses, David Blankenhorn, lacked any credibility as an “expert witness.” But the best part about this is that Blankenhorn used so called research from George Alan Rekers, a co-founder in 1983 with James Dobson of the right-wing Family Research Council. Rekers was also a board member for the group “NARTH” who teach that Lesbians and Gays can be cured. If you recall, Rekers was caught frolicking with a “Rent Boy” when he went on an extended European vacation. Don’t know what a “Rent Boy” is? Rent Boys are GAY MEN who can be hired to spend time with other GAY MEN! Yeah, the guy who claimed to “cure gays” was himself GAY! And he is the same person who Blackenhorn quoted in books EXTENSIVELY and the Prop 8 testimony! Gee, is it any wonder why his testimony was discredited????
 
The next witness, Hak-Shing William Tam, essentially stated that he got his information “from the internet!” WTF! Any FOOL with a computer and a connection to the internet can write whatever they want! It doesn’t make it a FACT nor does it mean that it is true! That’s like people saying “it’s in the bible” so that makes it right! IT DOESN’T! Other than the FACT that the law was discriminatory on it’s face and UNCONSTITUTIONAL, it there any wonder with the CLOWNS they had testifying for them that they LOST?
 
Here are a few of the Twitter tweets that were posted after the ruling came down. And yes, I was LAUGHING MY FAT ASS OFF!
 
1. DaraNai: good-bye Prop 8. don’t let the door hit you on the ass on the way out.
2. bridgetmcmanus: Take 2: Fuck you Prop 8 and your Mother!
3. cathydebuono Dear Financial Investors of #Prop8. You won’t be getting a refund/hahahahahhaha!
4. ggreenwald In this time of upheaval, a nation turns to Newt Gingrich- standing next to his 3rd wife/ex-mistress- to hear about the sanctity of marriage
5. DailyJill dear supporters of prop 8: guess all that money spent on hate was a big waste, wasn’t it?
6. Lesbionix “Everyone around the world …. Come On!” Prop 8 is DONE!!!!! Hate gets its ASS Kicked Again!!!!!!!!!
 
I AM BACK FOLKS! With a renewed sense of enthusiasm and the RIGHT TO GET MARRIED!!! Deal with it BITCHES! Because “it’s on like DONKEY KONG!!!!!”
 
P.S. Oh and Black folks, as USUAL, you were on the WRONG SIDE AGAIN!” But this time, your former allies don’t need you! So don’t be SURPRISED the next time something happens to you and your complaints are met with a “deaf ear and a blind eye!” Remember, YOU BROUGHT THIS ON YOURSELVES!!!!!!!!!

A recent Newsweek article states that seventy-five percent of Americans favor the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. This federal law requires Lesbians and Gays to be discharged from the military of it comes out that they aren’t straight. Yet fifty percent of those same people still don’t think Lesbians and Gays should be “allowed” to get married. The article goes on to give three “reasons” for the change of heart about Lesbians and Gays in the military. And while I understand what the author, Sarah Kliff, is saying, it’s straight out BULLSHIT!
 
The first reason is that discharging military experts because of their sexual preference is a National Security Risk. I remember when DADT was being drafted, some of the lame arguments for not allowing Lesbians and Gays in the military were that we weren’t “tough enough” or would try and “recruit or sexual attack and harass other soldiers.” DADT didn’t stop us from serving in the military. It stopped us from talking about our sexual orientation. So exactly how did DADT prevent that from occurring? It didn’t! That argument was another red herring in the lies told by bigots to prevent Lesbians and Gays from openly serving in the military.
 
The ironic thing about this issue is that many of the soldiers discharged because of DADT are people we can ill afford to lose at this time. They are Arabic linguists. And to bring even more light to this issue, an Out and Proud Gay Arabic linguist, Daniel Choi, was discharged from the military because of DADT. He was recently brought BACK INTO THE MILITARY and is waiting to be deployed because his skills are in demand, but few people have them.
 
The second reason for the changing opinions about DADT is because other Super Powers allow Lesbians and Gays to serve openly in the military. And have been doing so for DECADES! That alone proves that DADT was silly when it was created and that the “experiment” to see what would happen if Lesbians and Gays served in the military has been completed. The outcome? The decision to lift the ban on homosexuals had no impact on military performance, readiness, cohesion or ability to recruit or retain.” REALLY? Go figure!
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Getting an invitation to the White House is a big deal. And the State House invitation is a once in a lifetime, if you are lucky, event. So to hear that two idiots were able to get into the White House WITHOUT BEING INVITED, should be a concern for anyone who is paying attention. Because there have been covert and overt threats against President Obama’s life. And for two people to be able to get by the Secret Service apparently with ease, should make everyone cringe. Because if someone could slip past all of that security and make it into the event is a scary thought. Was this a dry run for things to come?
 
There is a movement afoot where religious zealots are using Psalm 109:8 and 109:9, to call for the assassination of President Obama. This saying is being printed on Bumper Stickers, Hats, Shirts, Coffee Mugs, teddy bears, and mouse pads. For those of you who don’t know what these two verses say, here they are:

Psalm 109:8 states: May his days be few; may another take his place of leadership.
 
Psalm 109:9 states: May his children be fatherless
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I could help but laugh my FAT ASS OFF when I read that former Miss california, carrie prejean, has decided to drop her lawsuit against the california Pageant because of the threat to release a sex tape in which prejean is the star! The tape is said to be so racy that people are SCARED to release it!
 
If you will recall, prejean announced at the Miss America pageant that she didn’t believe in Same Couple Marriage, even uttering the phrase, “not in her country.” With those words, she became the Republican AND the National Organization for Marriage, poster child. She was ferried around the country, first class, to dozens of speaking engagements where she was the “toast of the town.” Then there were some pictures of her in suggestive poses and with areas of her body barely covered. She said she was “tempted by the devil when she posed for those pictures.” Isn’t that convenient! Now with the release of the sex tape, I wonder what, or who, she is going to say “tempted her” this time?
 
I wonder if she is going to continue to be the “family values” spokesperson now that she has joined the ranks of Paris Hilton, Kim Kardashian, and Pam Anderson, among others, as people who have participated in sex tapes? I wonder if she is still going to be ferried around the country talking about “traditional marriage?” I wonder if her phone will even ring from anyone other than Playboy or Penthouse? From published reports, of the million dollars she was seeking from the Miss california pageant, she walked away with ABSOLUTELY, POSITIVELY, NOTHING! Not one damn cent!
 
To recap, she lost the miss california title, she sued the pageant, and then dropped the suit once the sex tape was about to be released. You almost want to feel sorry for her. But the DAMAGE she caused to the Gay community can’t be undone. And because of that, I feel that the creator is letting her know that she doesn’t decide what goes on in this “country.” Maybe she will have a little more compassion for the “others” now that she is one!
 
Your 15 minutes is up dear. GET LOST!!!